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There's lots of lit in the psych world about abusers having parents who abused, who had parents who were abused, back through many generations in western societies. Children need both firmness AND love from their parents. Parents who were damaged as children can't show love to their own children unless they get therapeutic care to heal the wounds of their childhood.

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suzc's avatar

So many abusers were abused. But many abused did not become abusers. No justification for what TFG is.

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Not a justification, but an explanation.

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