I almost did not listen to this podcast because I thought it would be too painful. I've always felt that nothing could be worse as a parent than losing a child. The discussion was painful but it was also very moving and filled me with great appreciation for my family and a determination to cherish that as long as I can. My thanks to you and Danielle Crittenden.
Thank you so much for this beautiful and thoughtful conversation about grief. It took me a few days to prime myself to listen given multiple losses in my family. I am glad I did. I appreciate Danielle's willingness to share her deepest feelings and thoughts.
This is so accurate. I lost my daughter to domestic violence in 2009 and I have never returned to myself. Living in an alternate universe says it all. There is a world wide group called The Compassionate Friends that is made up of parents that have lost children. They are miracle workers as they understand what a grieving parent is going through.
This is the second time I have heard Danielle speak, the first was on the David Frum podcast. Danielle has an amazing ability to connect through openness. Both times she made me cry and I’m one of those people who never allows myself to cry (a terrible trait) That ability to connect is such a gift for humanity. Thank you.
Great interview. My sister died in a car wreck at age 22 on Mother's Day. I learned a lot about grief when she died which has shaped me in my adult life but it was good to hear from a parent's perspective. My parents are both dead now but I could imagine they both felt a lot of these same feelings. My heart goes out to the whole family, both David & Danielle and their surviving children.
I listened to Danielle's and David's conversation about this on David's podcast and made the below comment. Listening to Danielle and Mona, I am struck by how similar Danielle and Rachel Goldberg-Polin sound in discussing grief and what is helpful when one is leaving with pain.
My comment to David and Danielle which I think applies here as well:
This conversation was charming, informative and haunting all at once. Thank you to David and Danielle for your willingness to be vulnerable in sharing your story so that others in pain may feel a little bit less alone.
Thank you Mona for having Danielle on your podcast.
So worthwhile, so valuable. I have the book and recommend it broadly. Despite personal tragedy of enormous impact, she has taken steps to tell her experience so that others feel seen too.
Thank you for this interview, Mona. Danielle speaks so honestly on grief. Been there, and I still am. You don't know, until you do. I have not lost a child, but I did lose my husband at age 53 and the anger and profound sadness I feel as other couples reach milestones that I/we will not. An anniversary, planning a special trip, etc. And that brings on a whole new wave of grief and it just keeps coming, and coming...
Thank you Mona. This is beautiful. I’ve been in this “club” for almost 10 years and never before have I heard someone write and speak so bravely, candidly and truthfully on this horrible experience, all the while calling BS on all of the “you can grow from this” idiots. I have a ticket to hear Danielle speak on Tuesday and I look forward to listening to her wise words.
I have so many things to say about this video. First, it is incredibly personal and emotional, so for 80% of it, all I really have to say, in the Jewish tradition, is: may her memory be a blessing.
As for the part about therapy, in defense of the profession, there aren't enough therapists, psychologists, or psychiatrists to heal the wounds of every person on Earth who would seek them out. Believe me when I say I don't know a single person in the field who wouldn't do it if they could.
As for EMDR itself, I'm glad it worked for you. It's relatively new, and it's effective for some, though not everyone is a candidate, and it's far from the only effective treatment for grief or trauma. But it is among the newest and sexiest, along with other somatic approaches. Some practitioners get real fancy with the bilateral stimulation, lots of doodads and geegaws that make an earnest counselor feel like they're really "doing" something. While I could write a book on this subject, I'll leave my critiques here.
It was a moving story and a moving interview. May God bless you both in your grief.
This are the type of loses to go straight to the heart of any mother. Am so sorry for you loss there is no other more painful heart breaking pain for any mother.
I almost did not listen to this podcast because I thought it would be too painful. I've always felt that nothing could be worse as a parent than losing a child. The discussion was painful but it was also very moving and filled me with great appreciation for my family and a determination to cherish that as long as I can. My thanks to you and Danielle Crittenden.
A profoundly moving interview. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this beautiful and thoughtful conversation about grief. It took me a few days to prime myself to listen given multiple losses in my family. I am glad I did. I appreciate Danielle's willingness to share her deepest feelings and thoughts.
This is so accurate. I lost my daughter to domestic violence in 2009 and I have never returned to myself. Living in an alternate universe says it all. There is a world wide group called The Compassionate Friends that is made up of parents that have lost children. They are miracle workers as they understand what a grieving parent is going through.
Lovely to have Danielle interviewed by a close friend ❤️
This is the second time I have heard Danielle speak, the first was on the David Frum podcast. Danielle has an amazing ability to connect through openness. Both times she made me cry and I’m one of those people who never allows myself to cry (a terrible trait) That ability to connect is such a gift for humanity. Thank you.
Great interview. My sister died in a car wreck at age 22 on Mother's Day. I learned a lot about grief when she died which has shaped me in my adult life but it was good to hear from a parent's perspective. My parents are both dead now but I could imagine they both felt a lot of these same feelings. My heart goes out to the whole family, both David & Danielle and their surviving children.
I listened to Danielle's and David's conversation about this on David's podcast and made the below comment. Listening to Danielle and Mona, I am struck by how similar Danielle and Rachel Goldberg-Polin sound in discussing grief and what is helpful when one is leaving with pain.
My comment to David and Danielle which I think applies here as well:
This conversation was charming, informative and haunting all at once. Thank you to David and Danielle for your willingness to be vulnerable in sharing your story so that others in pain may feel a little bit less alone.
Thank you Mona for having Danielle on your podcast.
I've read the pieces by both David and Danielle and my heart goes out to both of them.
So worthwhile, so valuable. I have the book and recommend it broadly. Despite personal tragedy of enormous impact, she has taken steps to tell her experience so that others feel seen too.
Praying for Danielle and David and their family. May their daughter Miranda’s light perpetually shine.
Thank you for this interview, Mona. Danielle speaks so honestly on grief. Been there, and I still am. You don't know, until you do. I have not lost a child, but I did lose my husband at age 53 and the anger and profound sadness I feel as other couples reach milestones that I/we will not. An anniversary, planning a special trip, etc. And that brings on a whole new wave of grief and it just keeps coming, and coming...
Thank you Mona. This is beautiful. I’ve been in this “club” for almost 10 years and never before have I heard someone write and speak so bravely, candidly and truthfully on this horrible experience, all the while calling BS on all of the “you can grow from this” idiots. I have a ticket to hear Danielle speak on Tuesday and I look forward to listening to her wise words.
This was awesome! Appreciate y’all talking about mental health/ grief topics like this, particularly parental bereavement and issues surrounding it.
I have so many things to say about this video. First, it is incredibly personal and emotional, so for 80% of it, all I really have to say, in the Jewish tradition, is: may her memory be a blessing.
As for the part about therapy, in defense of the profession, there aren't enough therapists, psychologists, or psychiatrists to heal the wounds of every person on Earth who would seek them out. Believe me when I say I don't know a single person in the field who wouldn't do it if they could.
As for EMDR itself, I'm glad it worked for you. It's relatively new, and it's effective for some, though not everyone is a candidate, and it's far from the only effective treatment for grief or trauma. But it is among the newest and sexiest, along with other somatic approaches. Some practitioners get real fancy with the bilateral stimulation, lots of doodads and geegaws that make an earnest counselor feel like they're really "doing" something. While I could write a book on this subject, I'll leave my critiques here.
It was a moving story and a moving interview. May God bless you both in your grief.
This are the type of loses to go straight to the heart of any mother. Am so sorry for you loss there is no other more painful heart breaking pain for any mother.