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I think the GOP has lost its mind. Most Americans are not ready to trip back to the oppressive 1950s. Listen, I am a 71 year old grandmother and I do not believe that kids are being unduly influenced (I have grandchildren as young as 9). I actually think it is healthy for kids to be able to talk comfortably about topics that could be (and was) historically uncomfortable for many of us. A few days ago my 9 year old grandson made the following statement to me with utmost sincerity: “you know, I like girls but I could see myself crushing on a boy”. I love that my grandchildren discuss these issues with me without any hesitation. I wish I had had that freedom to speak when I was young. Whatever path they choose in life I will ALWAYS love them unconditionally.

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I do not understand why trans people are such an issue for so many. They're less than 1% of the population, and yet everyone talks about them like they're everywhere. They're not! It's not like there is some huge epidemic of trans women defeating women everywhere in sports. It's not like there's some huge epidemic of trans women doing horrible things to people. By and large, based on how many there are, and how they're literally not hurting anyone, the proper response would be 'well, I might not want to live their lifestyle, but it's their lifestyle to live.'

The reason why the right doesn't face a backlash can be seen in the trans 'debate.' Moderates regularly grab activist perspectives, things that will never become law or are even accepted by a majority, and put them next to actual GOP platforms, leading people to think these are the same thing. They're not!

You can't be going 'well there are good points on both sides.' No there really isn't! There isn't an explosion of trans people in schools! There's not an explosion of CRT in schools. There isn't suddenly a huge change in people that is worth this much ink being spilled on the topic!

And we know this, because we can use the tried and true method for understanding human motivations: greed and self interest. If there WAS some kind of great benefit to trans women in women's sports, everyone would be doing it. If professionals thought there was a benefit, everyone would be doing it. If men thought there was a benefit, they would be doing it. It's the same thing with steroids: there was a tangible benefit, that's why they did it.

There is no tangible benefit to adopting an identity that will make half the country think you're Satan. The single reason one adopts the identity is because they think that they are trans, and that's their right as a human being. Why should we, or anyone, care about how they live their lives? That's not our business, and certainly not the business of the state to decide. Moreover, in the case of children, it seems to me that's between parents and their kids. That's how it's always been, and trans people didn't suddenly appear a few years ago, they've always existed, just like gay people always existed.

The real issue I think, is that lots of moderates are uncomfortable with things they don't personally like or agree with. But the problem is that these same moderates are entirely comfortable with people threatening or engaging in violence against this out group, because they themselves are not part of it. As plenty of POC can attest, there were plenty of white moderates who didn't want to rock the boat before the civil rights act was passed, because while they didn't like Jim Crow, they weren't uncomfortable with it existing, because it was the status quo.

The same holds true for people who aren't trans. Lots of people are not uncomfortable with trans people, but they're not uncomfortable enough with violence against them to actually, you know, want to do anything about it. As the saying goes, 'all evil needs to win is for good people to do nothing.'

By the way, this extends outside of this issue as well. If you want to know why the right doesn't get flak, it's because things like white christian fascism are known quantities to a lot of people. And if you're not personally affected, it's easy to feel like this isn't going to really come for you. People are comfortable with the idea of violence by the right for the same reason people shrug when reading about Ukraine; it's far away, it doesn't feel like it effects you, and even if it does, you'll get used to it.

While it's not as extreme yet, to use a reference, think of Germans living under Nazi germany who watched their neighbors disappear. Half my family is jewish, and basically none of the older ones didn't know someone who vanished. But what's always struck me is not the event itself, but that lots of people who were not partisan right wing nazis just sort of shrugged before, and also shrugged after. That's how this sort of thing gets worse: it relies on our sloth to make us go 'well, I know it's bad, but if I don't look at it, it won't bother me.' Everyone knew what they were doing, but everyone pretended that they weren't, or that it was something they couldn't do anything about, or that it was something that only happened to 'those' people.

So much of American life right now is being threatened because a minority, a true minority that is perhaps no bigger than 1 in 10, has leveraged its power over a political party and is now targeting groups that are no larger than 1 in a 100, in order to consolidate it's power and then attack others. We can't be 'both sides-ing' a bunch of people whose stated goal is a pogrom. We can't be like 'one side wants to round up and shoot trans people, the other thinks that they should have civil rights' and act like these are equal, because they're not. And this keeps happening. 'One side thinks teachers are all groomers and pedophiles, the other thinks they're not, let's act like these are both acceptable views.'

The problem with the right is that they understand that the inclination to both sides things in the name of fairness works in their favor. Ultimately, putting two things next to each other leads to people think they are the same in content and tone. At some point, you can't be 'above' things anymore. You have to take a side, because being 'unbiased' is a bias. It's also entirely unhelpful for understanding what's going on, with people intentionally taking advantage of people's desire to be 'unbiased.'

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